The one rule on fashion is don’t make rules.
Sometimes it seems like it would just be easier to have a handy list of answers to questions like these:
- How much can I spend on a dress?
- Is wearing a $200 watch more about fashion or function?
- How short a skirt can I wear?
- Should I wear a suit to church?
Jesus rebuked the Pharisees for rule making and rule following – yet – that’s exactly what we want sometimes. What’s the problem with rules?
When we follow a list of rules, we can think we’re doing okay, when in our hearts we aren’t doing well at all. We grudgingly comply.
Typically once we have a list of rules, we find ways of working around them. Which then requires even more rules. Ugh!
I like the way Peter addresses fashion in the Bible. He doesn’t make any rules, like the ones in the list above.
He uses redirection. My wife uses this trick when teaching first graders. Sometimes she uses this trick with me. It works! Peter redirects us away from concerns with outer beauty to inner beauty.
Here’s what he says:
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self,the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight (1 Peter 3:3-4 NIV)
Peter doesn’t tell us NOT to wear fine clothes or jewelry. He simply reminds us that beauty doesn’t come from outward appearance but from an inner beauty that shines through.
Peter’s advice redirects us from the concerns of the behavior to the core issues of our spirit. For some this may not be a very satisfying answer.
In my book Modern Parables for Financial Freedom you can read a story written by my son, Mike Tannian. It’s call Stan’s Pants and the story gives us a glimpse into Stan’s life and just how influential fashion is in his life.